Our Tryst to Pursue & Taming Happiness

Do you know the reason behind usage of the term “Pursuit to Happiness”? Because we have to continuously pursue happiness. We can never have a perennial source of happiness. We have to wake up everyday to work our ass off, so that we can reach closer and closer to few happy moments or things that might lead us to the Pandora box where Happiness comfortably rests. Basically, we have some predefined notions about happiness and methods to derive it, which might be incomplete or flawed.  Depending upon experiences & presumptions, we create personalized sources through which happiness can be achieved. Let’s accept a fact: Each one of us pursues happiness in our own way because its source tends to vary. Some people derive happiness from a relatively trivial thing (in the opinion of others), while there are others individuals who might be happy after they are the richest person in their society. 

“Can happiness be tamed?” “Are their levels for happiness and if there are levels, then how do we exactly know how happy we are in a particular situation?” “Can we manipulate our feelings to derive happiness?” These questions started hovering over my head during my early graduation days. Sadly, they did more harm than good. I was left muddled about the theory of happiness for many years to come. The more I read about happiness from random sources, the farther I went from achieving a happy state of mind. There were days when I wasn’t sure whether I was happy or my reaction in a particular situation was just a farcical reaction by my subconscious to please others. 
Dale Carnegie, the legendary writer & motivational speaker, made a famous statement on happiness, “Remember, happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have, it depends solely upon what you think.” Last year, I happened to read some works of Dale Carnegie who has written a lot about using our thoughts to be happy. Interesting. His works opened the floodgates of my mind and I actually started believing that using this technique happiness can be tamed. You can be happy whenever you want to. It’s just that you’ve to think that you’re happy. Isn’t that so simple? But, if it’s that so simple, then why are many people across the world unhappy. We will talk about this question and a few more grave ones in my next blog that would be here soon. 
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Posted by on November 13, 2014 in Fiction Stories


Huxley vs. Orwell: The Webcomic

What Orwell feared the most eventually became reality.


Stuart McMillen’s webcomic adapts (and updates) Postman’s famous book-length essay, Amusing Ourselves to Death, which argues that Aldous Huxley’s vision of the future in Brave New World was ultimately more accurate than the one proposed by George Orwell in 1984. (Via).

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Posted by on June 14, 2013 in Fiction Stories


“Constable injured during Gangrape protest at India Gate dies.”


I don’t give a damn how many people go against me or troll me but I sincerely feel that dispersion of crowd in Delhi was done for the welfare of people. I condone what was done to the girl and those bastards must get severest punishments possible. But, what happened between police and public was also unfortunate. Police officials are part of our country and they don’t get happiness after beating up their own countrymen. Many members of my family have been in police and I am telling this from their personal experiences.

Following are some of the reasons police had to disperse crowd:

1) Uncontrollable Crowd: The Crowd for the initial few days was calm and performing silent protest, but as and when political parties sent their protesters, things changed dramatically. There were boys and girls were arguing and fighting with Police. My Mama is in Delhi police and his colleagues are injured. As a matter of fact, more police officials are injured than the protesters. You can check it.

2) Rowdy Elements: Everyone is by now aware that there were groups of rowdies who were part of the protest. There is an old saying, “One Dirty fish contaminates the pond.” This was proved right during the protest. Due to these rowdies, all the protesters were targeted. Now the innocent fellas are thinking that Delhi Police were wrong when they dispersed them, but if we see the bigger picture, then we would get a better idea.

3) Politics Involved: We’re all aware of the fact that politics can get damn murkier. When we start believing everything is fine, then politicians emerge into the picture and corrupt the entire stuff with their mere presence. The protests during the initial days after the rape incident took place were calm and composed, but as and when politicians stepped in, things started to deteriorate.

Some anti-national elements are always looking for such opportunities to bring imbalance in our country. Their main motto is to de-stabilize the government and bring chaos in our country. As the government collapses, the rupee’s value and market crumbles. This further deteriorates the situation and after a point of time, when situation is completely out of control, then President’s Rule is forced upon the people. This is what some anti-social elements want.

What has happened is wrong and should not have happened in the first place, but we have to see both the sides of coin. There are people out there telling that the police official deserved to die. And, I ask why did he deserve to die? Those telling innocent protesters were falsely targeted must re-consider their view.

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Posted by on December 24, 2012 in My Serious Side


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Phone: The Savior

And he tried to break the phone but couldn’t do so, maybe he didn’t want to. He then ran towards her but she kept running away from him. He ran faster and stood in front of her and again tried breaking the phone but the shitty phone didn’t break again. He tried giving the phone to girl but she refused to accept it. He was furious, ran out of options, and above all, a helpless guy. He looked towards the sky, then maybe he thought of throwing the phone on ground to break it in pieces but changed the idea at the last moment.

They parted ways and moved in different directions. After walking for a while, Suddenly something stuck in his mind and he ran towards the girl, and just hugged her. The girl was perplexed; she tried to get away from him, but he didn’t let her loose. Finally, she gave in and they both kissed passionately.

PS: Saw live break up and then patch up on Panvel Station. The phone saved their relationship, at least for sometime.

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Posted by on November 20, 2012 in A doorway to my life


Today I had a Chat with Martin Luther King

I am sure, you would have been baffled while you read the title of this post. This is not a lie.I actually had a one-on-one chat with this Great Personality but it was all in mind. I have read a lot about visualization and its benefits, so thought of giving it a try few days back and after regular practice I have started understanding the art of visualization. So, let me share, how I met this great personality first time in my life.

I visualized sitting in a meeting room with a round table. After sometime, I noticed Oprah Winfrey entering into the room, and then followed, one of the greatest personalities of the 20th Century, Albert Einstein. Soon the room was full with many great personalities such as Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet and Martin Luther King. I noticed that when Sir Martin entered in the room, everyone stood up from their seats to show their respect for him. Without wasting time, I asked Martin Luther King, Sir, How do you think can I have happiness in my life. Listening to this question, all the guests present in the room started laughing. I, at that point was feeling ashamed of myself but Sir Martin realizing I was feeling bad stopped laughing and said ” Son, You are having a wrong notion about Happiness.Actually, Happiness is not a thing to be possessed or an activity to be performed. It’s just a state of mind. It’s your choice to be happy or not. No one in this world has the might to snatch away your happiness or stop you from being happy. All this while, as I was hearing his words, I was getting a feeling that this is the true meaning of happiness. It’s our choice to be happy. ….

Ok. So let’s move on. I am a great fan of Steve Jobs. I threw second question towards Steve. I asked him, What is your secret of earning money, loads of money? What is one special thing you do to train your mind to earn money? He didn’t reply. All he said was that I don’t share my secrets. Listening to this Bill Gates, who was sitting by his side laughed Shrewdly. I didn’t want an argument, so simply avoided his laughter. My last question was to Warren Buffet. I asked him, why am I am not able to earn money? He shot back by saying, “Because you keep wondering “Why am I am not able to earn money”. I got his logic, here, he was trying to present the idea of Law of Attraction. I asked, so what to do in order to make money. Yet again, he replied precisely, ” Stop running behind money and make it run behind you. Just choose a thing you like and direct all your energy towards it. Stick to it, until you master the art. Then Money will be your slave.”

My meeting with these great personalities ended by this answer. They wanted to leave. I was feeling blessed and when I opened my eyes, 30 minutes had already passed and my head seemed heavier.

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Posted by on July 6, 2012 in Self Help


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The 50-25-25 Rule

Day in-Day-Out I happen to come across people who are mad about success. Accomplishing certain goals is one of the most important aspects of their lives. Their entire life energy is directed towards accomplishing these goals. Some people are so mad about success that they even day-dream about making-big in their life. They visualize and try to live in the future, which is yet to be seen. It’s ironical to see such people go insane about success because the goal or success or the so-called destination is in-fact an insignificant place to be, and the “present” they are missing during their quest for success is invaluable.

Those who tend to hate their present because they want a better future are never able to understand the true value of their success or achievement. Because when they finally reach at the destination, everything seems meaningless. The sense of satisfaction gives them a miss, and the only thing that embraces them is a sense of relief that finally the journey was over, because for them the journey was a painful experience. For the people, who live in a belief that success or the achievement of a particular goal is everything in their life; have to pay for it badly. Because when they finally attain their goals or reach their desired destination, there is sense of void or emptiness. They are not able to understand and decide an important and pertinent question, what’s next.

I live in India, and since I happened to be born in a middle class family, I am accustomed to traveling in trains. Normally it takes couple of days for us to reach our native place. Since we go there after 3-4 years, so there are lots of expectations, the happiness is extreme. However, over the years I have realized that if our train journey goes bad, then while we reach our native place, next few days are spent cribbing out bad facilities, bad services and what not. This is all because “we didn’t enjoy our train journey well, which was in fact our present”.

There is minimal happiness at the top, if you haven’t learnt to enjoy the journey or your efforts and hard work for success. The moments, good or bad, you spend while on your quest to achieve success or your goal are the ones which would be relished by you, years later, when everything else will be forgotten. If you spend your time cribbing about the journey, then many years later, you will spend your days only cursing yourself about spending your days for the task, even if you would had achieved the goal.

If you have even driven a car, then you would have noticed that handling the steering properly holds great importance for driving the car properly. Let’s present an analogy here. The car being our life, where the steering and the equipments to drive the car safely are together the “Present”, the vehicles behind us is our past, and lastly the vehicles front of us is our future. Here in order to reach to a given destination, the most important aspect is different things in the car, which helps to handle it and move ahead. These things require major attention, so you get my point, when I say valuing present is important. This is one of the reasons I request everyone to give 50 % of their overall concentration to the present. Secondly, the vehicles behind us symbolize our past and it is a well-known fact that those who don’t learn from their past haven’t learnt anything in their entire lifetime. Our past needs 25 % of our overall concentration. Lastly, the vehicles ahead of our car and the road are our future. We have to keep a look at them because by neglecting these things we are also reducing our chances to reach to our destination. Therefore, our future needs to also get 25 % of our over concentration. This is the best method of living life, and the same time enjoying to the fullest potential. It’s like squeezing the mango such that we are able to enjoy its taste completely. So, when are you planning to start following 50-25-25 formula?

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Posted by on June 3, 2012 in Self Help


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Start Visualizing and Change your Life


Visualization is an art, which each one of us needs to try out in our day-to-day life. I am certain that it can unearthen our hidden self. The best part of visualization is that we can keep visualizing as far as our creativity goes.

I am a strong believer that by proper use of visualization we can enter in the past or future, in different situations, and alter our state of mind. The mindset of an individual can bring about changes in his attitude and behaviour, so visualization definitely can play vital role to carve our personality and thought process. For instance, you want to go in a depressed state, in that case you can simply start visualizing some of the worst moments of your life and assume being present there at the moment. If you are able to successfully take your mind there and feel that moment, then you would notice a change in your mood, after sometime you would start becoming sad and as you keep visualizing, you would enter in a state of depression. { PS. I don’t want you to start practicing for entering into a state of Depression, this is just an example :P}. The same goes other way round. For instance, you are depressed, the best way to get out of it, is to start visualizing one of the best moments of your life, maybe start thinking when you were eternally happy. Try entering in that moment, try being present there and you will start feeling better. The deeper you go, the longer and sustained benefit you would be able to avail.

Bloggers, entrepreneurs and writers are people having many many dreams in their grey matter. They can use visualization to fulfill those dreams. And why only these people, any lay man can use this art for accomplishing their goals. You want something, Start visualizing about it. You would get thousands of ideas to accomplish or attain it. You would have read about this, so my post is a gentle reminder that it is possible to fulfill your dreams through this art. And for God sake don’t think you can’t do it or it’s boring or it’s not my cup of tea. There was a time when walking wasn’t your cup of tea and your mom or dad used to hold iyour n their arms to take you one place to another. If at that point of time, you said to yourself, ” hey walking is so boring and I can’t do it, then just wonder today you would be using wheel chairs. So, my dear friends, when you are aware about something, make use of the knowledge to the fullest because there are many millions of people across the world who are ignorant and spend endless hours, craving to accomplish their dreams but all goes in vain. Through visualization you can enter into that moment when you would have fulfilled your goal or dream. Feel the happiness, feel the moment and then finally enjoy the journey towards the attainment of your goal.

Take this as a joke or take it seriously; please will be all mine.

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Posted by on April 28, 2012 in Self Help


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